Hello, I'm 이로운's concern counseling radio.
Today's topic is
How to avoid being hurt
I'm going to tell you about
In fact, looking at this repertoire is usually this.
Others say things that hurt me first
This hurts our words.
How do you rate me
Pointing out who I am and who I am
You can blame me like this
Healing or teasing
It's going to come in like this
If this is an open-disjit, it would be a fight.
If you playfully disguise
I might laugh here
It's a bad mood to laugh
If you think about it at home
It really hurts me.
It ’s going to go that way,
I have a lot of sadness or my heart hurts
These feelings are finally in our heads
What information do you provide us?
We lack
And we have a problem ourselves
There are cases where you get to this point.
You can either deny it or hate your dog too much
Or even a situation where you hate yourself
It often goes on
In fact, this is very common.
It's not uncommon. It's really common
It's the hard part that many people are going through.
So how do you overcome this
What's the way you don't get hurt anymore?
I will tell you 4 ways.
first. First, you have to draw a good boundary.
What is Boundary? It's a borderline.
Come to yourself and others
Is that you need a linguistic boundary.
In fact, we draw really well on compliments.
You are so handsome
You look attractive or you have a lot
You become capable
I think you are really good
These are not words, no, no, no
While most compliments are awkward
Keep this distance.
I draw a boundary like this and I don't accept the praise.
In my heart. By the way
Conversely, rants and swear words are stuck in the heart.
You are ugly, you are ugly
I don't think you're good at this
These words are easily blocked.
Because that's our culture
Make me learn that
Our country was humble and learned.
Be humble and listen to others ’advice
It is a terminal taught to overcome one's shortcomings.
It's not a problem in Korea
Asian culture
To pursue this kind of humility
I think I tend to
From a Western culture or something
Well, I will not designate a specific country
If you go somewhere like Western culture
To lower yourself too much
I think it's a sin as bad as suicide.
Asian culture is poisonous
Lowering me a little bit
What humility is mistaken for something
This is really wrong.
So even if you ’re a little arrogant, you have to stop it.
Even now, others do
Take some more compliments
I'm such a worthy person
What other people are doing to me, teasing,
Mischievous profanity
Words that detract from my self-esteem
My actual presence, but these things
I need to listen a little.
The reason is because of the second reason.
The second they do
Fixes and intellectual enemies
Is within "their thoughts"
In the limits of their thoughts
Is to point out who you are.
That person's evaluation
It's not a 100% complete assessment.
Their advice
It would not be the perfect advice in your life.
That advice comes in their lives.
In the lives of subscribers who are listening,
Sometimes you don't really need that advice.
Sometimes the advice is not perfect.
So, now my advice
It may not be the perfect advice in your life
That ’s why we need to give advice
You have to learn how to tell what advice you shouldn't listen to.
First of all, the advice you give
Advice or not
You have to know how to distinguish
third
In fact, the advice or hurtful words themselves
Without your consent
What you do to yourself is wrong.
Christianity
God doesn't judge until you die.
But with what authority
You're going to judge you?
What authority do you judge?
And the most important thing
People don't change just by being pointed out.
No matter how high self-esteem,
As for the intellectuals coming into the actual attack
People don't change.
Just not feeling bad.
And it's normal to feel bad.
That's why the other party asks you
The act of giving advice or hurting words
You must know how to refuse
It's good to say "I don't want to hear"
"Even playfully
Because you don't like to tease me
I hope not. "
You should know how to speak a little cool.
Even if it's hard, you have to learn
And even if you don't have all three in front.
Do this one. The most important thing
"Stop blaming yourself"
I'm telling you to stop me.
The disses that others do, or
Playfully teasing me
Blame me
Give me some advice
Things that are trying to fix my behavior too much
The most important reason to get hurt about these things
Actually, I think so.
You're looking at my values so low.
I ’m already feeling that I ’m lacking.
Because I lack myself
I can't get what I want
Or I can't get the love I want
If you already define yourself like that
Among the other people say to me
Aggressive words
Teasing or teasing that we talked about earlier
All of these are daggered.
The most fundamental reason for being nailed by the dagger
Actually, it means I keep attacking me.
Because I already feel that I am lacking
What they say is a lot.
If I look high on me
If I really value me
When I heard such ridiculous points
"What is it?" Like this
"I guess that's why I think"
You can go over.
I like my life, I've been living so hard
I like me
I like the things i have
"I don't feel the need to get the dog's point of view"
Until
Simple
However, if those words fit into my ears
I'm actually because I lack
I'm looking for my lack of reason
I see the reasons
With those points
So it hurts more
So the most important thing
No matter how self-sufficient you feel
You are actually a good person
You have to realize that you're a good person.
Please stop blaming yourself
Please feel that you are not lacking yourself
He is a really nice person.
Please acknowledge and understand
You'll want to deny it's not going on.
But nevertheless
I don't need to suffer from such hardships
I'm a good person.
He is a person deserving of love.
Please keep saying this.
I am a loveable person
I'm not going to blame myself anymore
Please declare
In your life so far
I had no choice but to live like this
Perhaps you're used to blaming yourself
Blaming yourself like that
You may be mistaken for granted,
It is not.
You are a good person
Even in such a life
He's been a good person so far.
I did my best to live
In the eyes of others,
In the minds of others
It's a decent person who doesn't need to be evaluated.
Now, please stop criticizing yourself.
And you have been working really hard
Praise me a lot
Please think again that it is worth yourself
Please
Stop blaming yourself.
I gave you 4 kinds of advice.
It will help
I think
If you try, you will be really happy.
And you will be very healthy yourself.
#Sadness #pain #self-esteem #Hownottogethurt
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